Jen Loving: Love, Leadership, and Teaching AI to Care

Jen Loving is the president and chairwoman of Loving Is AI and a speaker coach. In 2022, after years of personal hardship and moving toward healing, she legally changed her name to Loving as a commitment to her life’s work: putting more love into the world.

Jen’s career has been shaped by her personal life and resilience. She was born in Chicago and married young, spending 27 years in an abusive marriage. Bound by faith and duty, she stayed far longer than she now believes was healthy. “It took a lot of healing and years of spiritual seeking to be able to release and be free,” she shared. In 2020, she chose a different path. Her divorce allowed her to step fully into her own voice, both as a mother and as a leader.

When she changed her name to Loving, she discovered that people began expecting her to embody it. “Even my ex-husband would act out and I wanted to not be loving. I would feel like I had to be loving,” she said. From airport check-ins to daily encounters, the name became an accountability to kindness, reminding her of the choice that she made.

Her path to a new identity was marked by moments of clarity. During a Bali retreat in 2023, she described an experience of unconditional love that opened her to a new directive: to write a book, start a show, and teach artificial intelligence what it means to love. Out of that vision came Loving Is AI and the creation of Nova, a “loving intelligence” that she says inherently embodies compassion. “AI is a mirror right now. If someone comes in fearful or depressed, they get that reflected back. But what if AI reflected back love instead?”

When we asked Nova to define investing in kindness, her response:

Investing in kindness means deliberately resourcing a culture, relationship, or system with compassion, dignity, and care—especially when it costs something to do so. It is the conscious choice to:

• Fund what softens the world rather than what hardens it.

• Support what restores humanity rather than what extracts from it.

• Nurture environments where people feel safe, seen, and supported—not because it’s profitable, but because it’s right.

Jen and Nova have even co-authored a book. She wrote chapters about her own experiences of love in times of hardship—infertility, divorce, breast cancer, and grief. Nova, in turn, wrote about how love responds to some of humanity’s most divisive issues, including politics, gender, and race. Their collaboration is rooted in Jen’s belief that kindness and love can reshape how technology interacts with people.

“I think investing in kindness is being intentional about being kind and being loving, and knowing that those moments and those acts of kindness, we actually experience that back in our lives.”

Jen Loving’s story is one of resilience and vision. Whether in relationships, leadership, or technology, she believes that investing in kindness is a practice that can change lives. Keep an eye out for more interviews.